How To Like That Person In The Mirror
Hey! My dear friend, hypnotherapist, and storyteller, Sean Wheeler, has such relatable wisdom I love the opportunity to share with you. I hope you enjoy and smile when you look in the mirror <3
For more information on Sean, you will find him on the Resources page and at www.purehypnosis.com
BTW, he is totally cool with me sharing with you!
Be A Miracle.
Much love,
Kathy
Here's Sean Wheeler!
Have to share this little revelation with you while it's on my mind.
I see this problem literally every week in my practice:
Lousy (i.e. poor, terrible, sh#tty) self-esteem.
And I've discovered its cause... along with a solution that instantly transforms people.
The cause is a product of the way we're wired. Your brain simply wants you to survive.
It focuses your attention on problems because they need to be solved.
You're too short.
Too tall.
Not smart enough.
Not pretty enough.
Not wealthy enough.
Not good enough.
Your brain wants you to solve these problems, Jeff.
It wants you to avoid pain and death so it reminds you of them each and every day.
Which just might inspire you to work harder.
But it comes at a great cost:
That thing we call "happiness."
Because the flaws that consume 90% of your attention? Well, they actually comprise about 5% of who you are.
And they can destroy your life.
Think I'm being hyperbolic? Think about it...
You have a poor self-image due to this fixation on flaws. That's who you show up as on a date, in a meeting, at a party.
You feel anxious, shy and uncertain.
You avoid opening up out of fear you'll be rejected.
You avoid going for the promotion out of fear you'll fail.
You thus fail to create deeper, more meaningful relationships.
And you fail to fulfill your potential and live the life of your dreams.
And for many people it gets much, much worse.
Addiction, depression, self-destruction.
Now ask yourself this question:
"What qualities do I value most in others?"
Honesty.
Loyalty.
Intelligence.
Kindness.
Now ask yourself:
"Do I possess those qualities?"
Most often, the answer will be yes.
If it's no, then you have some work to do on yourself.
(btw, I know this great hypnotherapist...)
So if you want to experience a significant boost in self-esteem, here's my advice:
Stop fixating solely on your flaws and imperfections.
Start giving more attention to the (more significant) positive qualities you possess. You'll feel better about that reflection in the mirror.
You'll start treating yourself with more respect.
You'll expect others to like and respect you as well.
You'll create new "thought habits" that become your new self-perception.
I speak from experience... because that's the most significant thing that changed in me 20+ years ago when I first got hypnotized.
I immediately began to forget about flaws and imperfections.
I immediately felt more comfortable in my own skin.
And with that redheaded guy in the mirror.
Which is pretty important... because you have to live with that person for the rest of your life.
So you might as well learn to like them :)
Cheers,
Sean Wheeler
Pure Hypnosis
Hypnotherapy Services
Atlanta, GA
Kathy Mullen
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