Hey! My dear friend, hypnotherapist, and storyteller, Sean Wheeler, has such relatable wisdom I love the opportunity to share with you. I hope you enjoy and smile when you look in the mirror <3 For more information on Sean, you will find him on the Resources page and at www.purehypnosis.com BTW, he is totally cool with me sharing with you! Be A Miracle. Much love, Kathy Here's Sean Wheeler! Have to share this little revelation with you while it's on my mind. ​ I see this problem literally every week in my practice: ​ Lousy (i.e. poor, terrible, sh#tty) self-esteem. ​ And I've discovered its cause... along with a solution that instantly transforms people. ​ The cause is a product of the way we're wired. Your brain simply wants you to survive. ​ It focuses your attention on problems because they need to be solved. ​ You're too short. ​ Too tall. ​ Not smart enough. ​ Not pretty enough. ​ Not wealthy enough. ​ Not good enough. ​ Your brain wants you to solve these problems, Jeff. ​ It wants you to avoid pain and death so it reminds you of them each and every day. ​ Which just might inspire you to work harder. ​ But it comes at a great cost: ​ That thing we call "happiness." ​ Because the flaws that consume 90% of your attention? Well, they actually comprise about 5% of who you are. ​ And they can destroy your life. ​ Think I'm being hyperbolic? Think about it... ​ You have a poor self-image due to this fixation on flaws. That's who you show up as on a date, in a meeting, at a party. ​ You feel anxious, shy and uncertain. ​ You avoid opening up out of fear you'll be rejected. ​ You avoid going for the promotion out of fear you'll fail. ​ You thus fail to create deeper, more meaningful relationships. ​ And you fail to fulfill your potential and live the life of your dreams. ​ And for many people it gets much, much worse. ​ Addiction, depression, self-destruction. ​ Now ask yourself this question: ​ "What qualities do I value most in others?" ​ Honesty. ​ Loyalty. ​ Intelligence. ​ Kindness. ​ Now ask yourself: ​ "Do I possess those qualities?" ​ Most often, the answer will be yes. ​ If it's no, then you have some work to do on yourself. ​ (btw, I know this great hypnotherapist...) ​ So if you want to experience a significant boost in self-esteem, here's my advice: ​ Stop fixating solely on your flaws and imperfections. ​ Start giving more attention to the (more significant) positive qualities you possess. You'll feel better about that reflection in the mirror. ​ You'll start treating yourself with more respect. ​ You'll expect others to like and respect you as well. ​ You'll create new "thought habits" that become your new self-perception. ​ I speak from experience... because that's the most significant thing that changed in me 20+ years ago when I first got hypnotized. ​ I immediately began to forget about flaws and imperfections. ​ I immediately felt more comfortable in my own skin. ​ And with that redheaded guy in the mirror. ​ Which is pretty important... because you have to live with that person for the rest of your life. ​ So you might as well learn to like them :) ​ Cheers, ​ Sean Wheeler Pure Hypnosis Hypnotherapy Services Atlanta, GA